When Bosom Buddies Fight

What are you more interested in becoming — a great ‘success’ or a great ‘leader’?

If given the opportunity to be a great 'success' and a great 'leader,' most people would take it. Generally that’s fine because the vast majority of time -- let's say 98% of the time as an estimate -- being a great success and being a great leader are bosom buddies.

But what about when they aren’t? What happens when being the best leader you can be butts up against how you’ve defined success?

What will you do when you have the opportunity to…

  • …encourage your best employee to apply for a promotion outside your division?

  • …protect your reputation by hiding your true feelings about an important organizational decision?

  • …get out of an ill conceived bonus plan through a technicality?

Being able to make conscious decisions about who we want to be usually begins with a one-on-one meeting with ourselves.  How do you define being a great success? How do you define being a great leader? What are the differences? When will you choose one over the other?  Answers to all of these questions help define who we want to be and what is most valuable to us.  Great leaders invest the time necessary to unearth the answers to such questions.

Few of us are able to objectively analyze our choices in the emotion, temptation, and stress of the moment. We enable ourselves to become the best leaders we can be when we preemptively and intentionally decide who we want to be before difficult situations arise.

Share Your Thoughts:  When have you run into circumstances when your definition of success didn't align with what it means to be a great leader? What had you done to prepare for such a moment? What did you do in the end? Where you happy with the end result? We'd love to hear from you. Join the conversation by clicking here.Click here to receive free postings from Tim Spiker and The Aperio. As a thank you, you'll receive the first two chapters of The Only Leaders Worth Following: Why Some Leaders Succeed, Others Fail, and How the Quality of Our Lives Hangs in the Balance.